Anal Sex Tips

Bonus Tips For Men

Some men, particularly the first time the have anal sex, may lose their erection during anal penetration. It happens. If it does, relax, breathe, and let him decide if he wants to keep trying or try another day.

With prostate stimulation, your lover will probably have a very powerful orgasm. He's probably going to be in such a state of bliss that he's not going to be able to speak for a while. The idea is to keep him in The Happy Place as long as possible. Therefore, immediately after he climaxes, do not yank your finger out . Slide it slowly from his body to avoid shock.

First-time Anal Sex: Women

Technically this tip can be used if you've already experienced anal sex, but if you haven't, here's a great way to make sure your first time is truly enjoyable.

Many women avoid anal sex because they worry about the loss of control. You can avoid this by becoming the penetrator.

1. Have your partner lie down.
2. Straddle him, either facing him or away (the latter is easier for anal penetration), toward his feet.
3. Be sure he's wearing a condom.
4. Use plenty of lubrication on his protected penis as well as your anus. (Don't forget to have fun with the application!)
5. Take a deep breath and let it out. Repeat throughout.
6. Position the tip of his penis against your anus. You may wish to masturbate a little to relax the entire region.
7. Focus on relaxing all your rectal muscles, almost to the point of pushing them out.
8. Ease yourself down onto his penis as slowly as you wish, stopping whenever you feel yourself clenching up or experiencing pain. The more lubrication, the easier this will be. Feel free to add more lube of have your lover do it for you.
9. Each time you stop, breathe. Unclench . Then proceed.

First-time Anal Sex: Men

Men tend to have more reservations about anal sex, due to the (unfounded) concerns that enjoying it may question their masculinity. Even those men who agree with digital (finger) penetration my draw the line at other objects like butt plugs and dildos being introduced.

Regardless, here are a few tips for first-time anal play.

1. Try it the first time during fellatio.
2. You partner should be sure you are well aroused.
3. Using a decent amount of lubricant, coat the anus as well as one finger (usually the middle one). Be sure fingernail is clipped short and has no jagged edges. An alternative is to slip a condom over the finger.
4. While continuing fellatio, your lover should trace around the outside of the anus, stimulating the nerve endings there. (Most men find this to be arousing enough, but it gets better.)
5. Slowly ease the finger into the anus, stopping briefly after each knuckle, until the entire finger has penetrated him.
6. Begin to draw small circles with your finger inside his rectum. Some men may not enjoy in-out movements, but you can always try both to see what works.
7. Prostate Gland Stimulation: Curl your finger toward the front of his body (as if gesturing, “Come here.”).
8. As you continue with oral stimulation of the penis, press and stroke this area. Sometimes just constant pressure does the trick.

Anal Sex Basics

In essence, anal sex involves penetrating your partner's anus with a penis, finger(s), a dildo, or another anal sex toy, with the goal of experiencing mutual pleasure. But for many, anal sex can be a bit daunting. The first fear is usually the pain factor. In fact, the walls of the anus are actually lined with very sensitive nerve endings. However, it produces no lubrication of its own. Supplemental lubrication must be used and penetration should be slow. If these guidelines are followed, anal sex can be a highly arousing experience.

Bonus Tips For Women

When you have become accustomed to anal sex and both of you know the speed and angle(s) that you prefer, you may try double penetration. The first time, I'd suggest that your lover penetrate you vaginally while you wear a butt plug or insert a small dildo into your anus. Butt plugs are preferable, since they stay put. As you get more flexible with dual pleasure, you can switch to penile anal penetration with a dildo or vibrator in your vagina.

The How To Of Anal Sex

So you'd like to try anal sex... First, it's a good idea to put away any stigmas about anal sex and remember that between two consenting adults, it can be an extremely intimate experience, both physically and emotionally. If you decide to try anal sex, there are three vital things to remember: Be safe, slick, and slow! Ensure your safety by getting clean beforehand and using the protection of a condom during sex. Use lots of lubricant to ensure the partner on the receiving end is comfortable. Finally, take your time! What's the rush? Go slowly enough to avoid discomfort...and to allow you both to experience pleasure to its fullest and most luxurious.

Anal Sex: Truly Equals In Bed!

If you and your partner enjoy more egalitarian sex, anal intercourse is the perfect option. At any given time, each of you can be the giver or receiver of this act of love. Besides the pleasure both of you can receive, there is another benefit that far outweighs just fun. The extra care and attention needed during anal sex offers you and your partner a way to become more intimate. Each of you will have the opportunity to experience some approximation of what the other experiences. And in the end (!), that's a very valuable thing.

Anal Beads

There are several ways both male and female partners can enjoy the pleasures of anal sex using other items for penetration besides penises and fingers. Anal bead sex toys are one of the more exotic toys on the market. They resemble a large necklace: basically, a string of plastic beads. Each bead is inserted into the anus (as many as are comfortable). Slowly, each bead is pulled out. This can be done by either you or your partner. The result is a sensual roller coaster ride for the bearer of the beads!

Anal Sex: The Spa Vacation of Sexual Positions

Think of anal sex as the spa vacation of sexual positions. Because tender areas being penetrated, it's necessary you and your partner relax and take your time -- just like you would on vacation! And what vacation is complete without a few fun toys and gadgets? Anal sex toys are a great option once couples are more comfortable with the basics of anal sex. From butt plugs to dildos to vibrators to anal beads, there are plenty of options for adventuresome lovers who want a holiday...any day of the week.