Anal Sex Basics

In essence, anal sex involves penetrating your partner's anus with a penis, finger(s), a dildo, or another anal sex toy, with the goal of experiencing mutual pleasure. But for many, anal sex can be a bit daunting. The first fear is usually the pain factor. In fact, the walls of the anus are actually lined with very sensitive nerve endings. However, it produces no lubrication of its own. Supplemental lubrication must be used and penetration should be slow. If these guidelines are followed, anal sex can be a highly arousing experience.

Is Oral Sex Normal?

Some people are reluctant to give oral sex. This can be due to a number of reasons, ranging from religious beliefs to personal negative associations with the act. Oral sex is a perfectly natural method of pleasing your lover. It's an ancient, worldwide practice, in fact. One study put out by the Kinsey Institute shows that over 90 percent of married couples engage regularly in oral sex.

Communication In Bed

A great way to ensure a better sex life is to develop open communication between you and your partner. Sharing what you like and don't like in bed is key to being a better lover. Make sure that the door swings both ways: You must be able to listen as well as be heard. Establish trust by letting your partner share his or her feelings openly. In turn, you should have the same freedom to share your needs and desires as well.

Keeping Up Appearances With Cock Rings

One of the simplest ways to retain an erection is the use of a cock ring. Cock rings slide over an erect penis and sit at the base. In so doing, they slightly squeeze the penis and keep the engorged blood vessels fuller longer. The result is a longer-lasting and firmer erection. Cock rings can be used during foreplay and intercourse, but should not be worn for longer than four hours at a time.

What Happens When Women Orgasm?

While it may seem to take a long time to achieve female orgasm, the orgasm itself typically lasts only a few seconds. (This is true for men as well.) The female orgasm consists of approximately three to ten rhythmic muscular contractions. These occur to the outer one-third of the vagina, the uterus, and the anal area. Pleasant sensations are typically also felt in the clitoral area and indeed over the whole body.

Finding The Clitoris

Perhaps one of the most elusive spots in a woman's anatomy is her clitoris. In fact, it is not so difficult to find. The head, or glans, of the clitoris is located just below the top of where the inner lips of the vagina meet. There is often a small flap of skin protecting it, and once lifted, the clitoris can be seen quite clearly.

The (Sex) Swinging Life

Perhaps one of the most fun sex toys ever created is the sex swing. You and your lover can enjoy complete freedom of movement in your lovemaking. Most swings are easily installed in a door frame or ceiling and are completely rotatable. That way, you can enjoy your favorite positions without stress or strain. And you may come up with a few new positions as well!

Choosing A Lube

Some lubricants are made of glycerin, which can become sticky or stain sheets and clothing. Water-based personal lubricants are odorless and non-staining. Many also come in a gel format. This ensures that the lube won't drip where you don't want it. A quick tip: If a water-based lube dries up before you are ready to wash it off completely, all it takes is a few drops of water to reactivate it.

Cleaning Sex Toys

Once you have found the kinds of sex toys you and/or your partner enjoy the most, it's important to keep them in good working condition. This means regular maintenance and cleaning. Adult sex toys like dildos and vibrators are made of silicone, jelly, or a porous material that requires cleaning with warm water and mild soap. Some dildos, however, are made of tempered glass. These are non-porous, so they are hypoallergenic and much easier to keep clean.