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Whether you're a virgin or are simply having sex with a new partner, the first time can be nerve-wracking. How do you know it's the right time? Will you be able to perform? Will your partner think you're a good lover?
Most of what you're stressing about has no bearing on the first time in bed with someone. Think about it: How could you possibly know what s/he likes if you've never made love to him/her before? And vice versa. Essentially, you both are bringing to the bedroom all the past experiences you've had with other lovers and/or by yourself. Some of what you know may work, some won't. There's no hard-and-fast rule for being a stellar lover, so drop that notion and start fresh.
Here's where the art of sexual communication is key. Think of this new love as blank canvas on which the two of you will jointly create a work of art. Start slowly, listen to your partner's desires, watch his/her body language, and ask questions. I assure you that even the most inexperienced lover can become a master by treating each encounter as a new and treasured adventure.