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Creating a sacred space for lovemaking is an important part of a healthy sex life. It's certainly not necessary to do every time, but once in a while taking a few moments to concentrate on your surroundings can make the subsequent encounter all that much more special.
And it doesn't have to be the bedroom! You may wish to change your routine by setting up a love nest of sorts in the living room or den. Throw down a few blankets and pillows. (If you are sprucing up the bedroom, choose the softest blankets and add a few more pillows to the bed. You can also push the bed against a wall and line the wall edge with pillows.)
Pillows get a lot of flack for being unnecessary fluff items, however they can great sex aids. You can lean against them or use them to prop up your lover's body. And, of course, if they do get in the way, you can just toss them aside.
Lighting is important as well. Avoid all electric light in the room where you make love. Light candles instead. Even camping lanterns can give a soft glow to the room. Be sure not to place flame near anything that can catch on fire. Place plates under candles to avoid dripping wax marking your floors.
Drape warm-colored scarves or other tapestries over existing curtains and across any non-sexy items in the room (such as computer monitors, televisions, hampers, etc.).
If you're not allergic, light some incense as well. Choose soft, sensual smells such as sandalwood, musk, or patchouli.
Most importantly, set up your sanctuary together ; it's all part of the warm-up to sexual intimacy.