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While it may seem to take a long time to achieve female orgasm, the orgasm itself typically lasts only a few seconds. (This is true for men as well.) The female orgasm consists of approximately three to ten rhythmic muscular contractions. These occur to the outer one-third of the vagina, the uterus, and the anal area. Pleasant sensations are typically also felt in the clitoral area and indeed over the whole body.
Perhaps one of the most elusive spots in a woman's anatomy is her clitoris. In fact, it is not so difficult to find. The head, or glans, of the clitoris is located just below the top of where the inner lips of the vagina meet. There is often a small flap of skin protecting it, and once lifted, the clitoris can be seen quite clearly.
The female orgasm is a subject that has always garnered a lot of attention. The first vibrator was invented in the Victorian era to relieve a woman's "hysteria" by bringing her to orgasm. These vibrators were actually administered by doctors! During the sexual revolution of the 1960s and 1970s, even the type of a woman's orgasm was debated. At the time, vaginal as opposed to clitoral orgasms were said to be the more "mature" of the two -- a mode of thinking that has been abandoned for the most part in the 21st century.
Think of the clitoris as a female's version of a penis. Biologically speaking, it is, although fluids do not pass through this area. During clitoris stimulation, as with penis stimulation, blood flow is increased. This causes the clitoris to become erect, much like a penis. Of course, the size is drastically reduced, but some clitoral erections can be quite prominent.
Most everyone knows that orgasms feel good. And we know that the purpose of a male orgasm is to send semen into the vagina for the purpose of fertilizing an egg within the uterus. But did you know the female orgasm, too, has a physiological purpose? During the internal spasms of a woman's orgasm, the mouth of the cervix dips down to "catch" any semen that may be present in the vagina, thereby helping pull sperm up and into the uterus.
Everyone is able to experience sexual pleasure. But many women in particular claim never to have achieved orgasm. One of the reasons for this is an emotional withdrawal due to feelings of shame or insecurity concerning sex. A way to remedy this is to remember that sexuality is normal, healthy, and necessary. Next time you are alone or with a partner you trust, try relaxing and keeping this in mind as you engage in sexual activity. Forget the goal of orgasm and let yourself simply enjoy the sensation of being touched.
|Jennifer Mathes, Ph.D.|